If you haven’t read my post on my first deepthroating experience, you should. It’ll explain why I, someone who fully admits that blowjobs are boring, really enjoy deepthroat training. It’s something I can’t do to myself, so I have to be completely out of control, which pushes happy buttons in my brain.
Anyway, I thought I’d write down some advice for other people who want to do similar training. Please realize that, unlike anal sex, I’m not actually a card-carrying expert on this yet, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt. That said, I’ve tried to keep my advice to within the range of my experience so it’s actually, you know, useful.
- Puke happens. If you or your partner absolutely can’t stand the idea of vomit, this might not be the activity for you.
- Have patience. You’re dealing with a reflex. Like how you automatically hold your breath under water. That kind of reflex. There’s no magic button to turn off lizard-brain level programming that believes this thing is a threat and responds accordingly. Hi fives for taking on the lizard brain! Now, stop expecting immediate results.
- Be consistent. As with most training, it’s most effective when done regularly. Maybe you can’t afford the time to have a session every other day, but find something about once a week.
- Partner up. Some things are easier to start solo, but, again, reflex. Your body is going to fight you all through the practice sessions. It’s simply easier to have a partner do it for you. And if you happen to be like me and enjoy being not in control, that can be fun. 😉
- Use the tub. Both you and your partner get naked and get in the tub. You might want a towel to cushion the knees for kneeling, but that’s it. This will make clean-up so much easier.
- Make sure whatever’s hitting the back of your throat (penis, dildo, whatever) is wetted first. Having something dry back there actually hurts.
- Find a rhythm. My partner actually times me; I get a few seconds to catch my breath and get ready, then a few thrusts, then a few seconds, then a few thrusts. The rhythm lets me go on autopilot and relax, which is absolutely necessary during sessions.
- Partner advice. There will be tears, snot, slobber, and vomit. If your partner has to squat on his/her heels to get the right height/angle (like I do), there might also be piss. Get over it. They’re retraining a basic-instinct-level reflex, and they’re doing it for you. If you’re a penis-haver and think your penis will deflate in spite of the work your partner is doing to make you happy, you’re going to have to find some other way to make it clear that you deeply appreciate their effort.
- Not all vomit is made equal. Wait a few hours after eating before having a session, avoid super spicy food, etc. I’ve actually found that sweetened dairy products (like ice cream) have been the absolute worst.
- If, like me, you enjoy being out of control and hit a happy place in these sessions, you’re going to need time to come down. Personally, I recommend shower cuddles, but find the style that works for you. Even if you don’t need time to come down, washing up after is still a good idea.
That’s all for now, folks. Happy kinking!
Written By Pixie Pele